Liz: “I’m so glad you reached out to me! Fate would bring us together through our amazing hairstylist, Laura. We have a lot in common!
I love your website. It’s easy to navigate and has a clean design, peppered with spirited photos of your smiling face. You have a very welcoming, comforting vibe, and that’s great for what you do.
So what made you choose to be a physiotherapist for our privates?”
Susie: “It all started when I was jumping on a trampoline 6 years ago with my godson and I suddenly pissed myself. At 25yrs old I freaked out. As fate would have it, my good friend Ashely emailed me an opportunity to shadow a pelvic health therapist. I was nervous at first because I didn’t know if I could muster up the courage to stick my finger in someone else’s vagina. After shadowing the therapist and taking a few training classes on my own, I was sold.”
Liz: “On your About page, you list the questions you hear the most from people and I found it informative and funny. Do you find that a lot of people seem uncomfortable with what you do when you first tell them?”
Susie: “Oh yea, because who isn’t shy talking about their private parts? Eventually after a few cock-tails people end up asking me all sorts of questions and express tons of interest.”
L: “You’re a woman who’s very pretty and youthful looking, do you ever feel like people have a difficult time respecting your authority or knowledge?”
S: “Unfortunately it comes with the territory as they say which is why I do my best to address the big elephant in the room. Without sounding too narcissistic or prude, yes I know I’m pretty and I’m a chick but I like to keep things down to earth and professional. I pride myself being able to make people, especially men, feel comfortable about issues going on downstairs. It’s way too often that people are shy and nervous seeking help for their privates and if I can bring light to a rather “embarrassing” subject the more my message gets across, hopefully encouraging people to get the help they need.
As a woman, boundaries are very important and I make sure both men and women know what those boundaries are for me. 99% of the time I have no issues with people crossing boundaries because when you’ve got dick pain the last thing you’re thinking about is some hot chick looking at your junk. You just want help so the problem down there gets cleared up.”
L: “What’s the biggest myth about male and female reproduction/sexuality?”
S: “The biggest myth that comes to mind is the female orgasm. Ha ha not that the orgasm is the myth but that women “gush” buckets of cum when they orgasm. That’s just not true no matter what you’ve seen in porn. Truth be told women do have a ‘female prostate’ with little tiny glands called skene’s glads that emit prostate like fluid along with diluted urine when stimulated. So the female g-spot does exist and women do cum just not bucket amounts. If that’s the case, I’d be curious to see how much of that fluid is diluted urine.
For men, I’d say that having an orgasm doesn’t equal ejaculation. You can have an orgasm without ejaculation. And guys, you can’t separate your mind from your penis. Your performance is partly based on what’s going on in your head (the one on your neck not your penis haha).”
L: “What’s the best and worst advice about sex and relationships your parents gave you?”
S: “I actually never got any advice from my parents BUT my old polish grandma on the other hand, now that’s a different story. When my cousin once asked her how to prevent getting pregnant, she said “do anal”. Classic.”
L: “Are you working on any side projects?”
S: “Too many! The biggest and most recent project is my new book, Pelvic Pain: The Ultimate Cock Block. Accounting for over 2 million outpatient visits per year in the United States alone, persistent pelvic pain syndrome is a mysterious condition imprisoning millions of men in their own bodies.
In my book, I address this invisible affliction targeting men in their early 20’s-late 30’s. I discuss the low down on the ‘down below’ using humor to break down the walls of cultural taboos, empowering men (and women) to take matters into their ‘own hands’, literally.
There are only a select few books in the realm of pelvic pain, none of which are specifically written in a tone and language that captures the voices of young men suffering with pelvic pain. It’s straight forward, empowering and provides self-help strategies to ensure that pelvic pain doesn’t snowball into a catastrophic, self-dooming life sentence. Pelvic pain isn’t permanent despite what the internet and other doctors may have said.
My second greatest project is establishing a practice in Asheville, NC. I recently moved from Chicago to the beautiful smokey mountains and am setting up shop here. So if you’re up for some serious healing and love nature, come visit me in Asheville y’all!”
L: “Do you have more male or female clients/people who contact you?”
S: “I’d say it’s 50/50.”
L: “What’s the most surprising fact about our sexual anatomy that many people don’t know?”
S: “That we actually have muscles down there that are essential for sexual health and function. It’s more complicated than people think. And the second most interesting fact is that these same muscles are essential for pooping and peeing. Sex, poop, and pee are vital everyday functions and there are people like me out there who help when things literally go “south”.”
L: “If you could go back to your teens knowing then what you know now, is there anything you’d do differently?”
S: “Great question! I would definitely eat healthier, take less antibiotics and do more self-care like yoga, exercise, meditation, mental coaching etc. Health is a multifaceted continuum and the key to happiness in my opinion.”
L: “Tell me more about your Guidance Program vs your Hands-On Program.”
S: “The Guidance program is essentially a health coaching relationship established to help someone who’s got pelvic pain and doesn’t know where to start, who to see, what to do. As a health coach, it’s my job to support you with all my professional networks and resources so that you can build a supportive wellness team to suit your needs. I also push you out of your cozy, comfort zone to get to the real fears and barriers that are preventing you from reaching your health and/or personal goals. I’ve worked with many individuals with pelvic pain and take a holistic and integrative approach to healthcare but this also takes commitment on the client’s part to do the work. Unfortunately, there’s no “magic pill or cure” for anything in this world and ultimately all the healing comes from within.
The Hands-On program is something unique I created that no other physical therapist has done to my knowledge. I’ve created a one-on-one, 6 day unique teaching program designed to teach you how to treat yourself. You learn all the tools to become an expert in treating yourself from a physical standpoint. You also get the coaching and supportive guidance because the physical issues are just one piece of the puzzle and addressing the other domains such as relationships, sleep, nutrition, mental health, resilience, etc. For this program participants must be willing to come visit me in Asheville, NC.
You can find details of both programs on my website www.drsusieg.com”
L: “What’s the #1 cause of male pelvic pain and female pelvic pain?”
S: “Ah, another toughie. Honestly, there isn’t any #1 cause for pelvic pain. That’s what makes this issue such a conundrum for most patients, doctors and wellness providers. It’s a multifaceted issue and looking at the whole person, at all domains of their health is essential to healing. I know this isn’t the answer most people want to hear but it’s the nature of the beast. I think people need to realize that persistent pain of any kind is all encompassing and really a signal from your body that something in your life needs to change. It’s not always physical and we need to start looking beyond just treating the symptoms.
Pain gets a bad wrap but it’s actually a gift. Without pain we’d be in more harm. You’d want to know that you’re touching a hot stove, you want to know that you just stepped on a nail. Pain is a vital part of life.”
L: “If you could give only one piece of advice for preventive care, what would it be?”
S: “Don’t forget to have some fun in your life. It’s the best cure for anything. Putting yourself first is not selfish, actually you’re doing everyone a favor by taking care of yourself so that you have the strength and resilience to take care of others. As they say on the airplane safety spiel you’ve got to put on your own oxygen mask first before helping others. You’re no use to them if you’re dead.”
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