B.K. wrote: ” I’m a 34 year old virgin. I work 7 days a week, soon to be 80 hours a week. I’m over 415 lbs, and I have a very small penis. Extremely shy when liking someone at first sight and scared to approach. Help!”
Liz says: The larger a man is, the smaller his penis will appear compared to his body size, so your penis is probably average in size. Have you seen a doctor about managing your weight yet? That is where I would start. Take care of your health before starting to date.
While you’re exercising, learning about nutrition, and joining local groups to enjoy activities with like-minded people, you’ll not only get healthier and lose weight but you might also meet someone good for you! People who take care of themselves and live happy, active lives are more attractive to others. So what are you most interested in? Reading? Join a book club! Sign up to meetup.com, there are hundreds of local groups for almost anything you can think of: foreign language, basketball, travel, cooking, you name it! Figure out how to reduce your work hours, if possible, so you can live a more balanced life.
Meeting someone you happen to click with during a group activity will also help you with your shyness. It’s much easier to chat with someone and ask them out for a private date if you two are already having fun together! Just don’t make the mistake of treating the group like it’s a meat market, be mindful that some people join only because they’re interested in making friends and the shared activity. But as the weight comes off and you’re feeling more confident, you might notice shyness not being much of a problem anymore, anyway