There is so much love for us all here. Everything we need is truly within. We can effect global change locally. –
Tending to the alchemical fire for the benefit of all beings. Each of us a microcosmic map of the Universe. Thoth = thought. –
Begin where you are. Breathe and be love, deliberately creating with love. Tap into the infinite power of source. Dance with the forces of nature. –
Humbly serving the collective community that I am. Two trainings this weekend, one to reset the central intelligent core – solar plexus activation, and the other to build the muscle strength around the shoulder girdle for safe navigation into the uppermost chakras. (Locally) –
Also creating a series for the YouTube on how to build an inversion practice from a steady and firm foundation. (Globally) –
It’s time to lean in! We can do it! I love you Ali Wong! You’ll love the divine feminine movement ⚡️
I was having a conversation with a friend the other day. It had been a while since we had caught up and she was asking what was new in my life! I covered all of the usual topics, such as relationships, the job, the family, and recent trips I’ve taken. But instead of stopping there and continuing the conversation per usual, I mentioned how big naturism had become in my life since our last conversation. Surprisingly, when I shared this information, she was well aware of what a “naturist” was and didn’t seem surprise that I was one. Me sharing that part of me turned into a conversation lasting a few hours about body positivity, insecurities, how society oversexualizes the naked body, how people of color are viewed in the nude, etc! It’s crazy because we had been friends for years and after that conversation, it was the first time that I felt like we actually knew each other. It’s amazing how freeing sharing your truth is. Not only freeing for myself, but freeing for those connected to me. Me sharing my experiences as a naturists allowed her the opportunity to open up about how she felt about herself and why she’d love to explore naturism more.
As I’m writing this post, I’m currently reflecting on how far I’ve come since originally starting this blog. This is my “staring at the man in the mirror” post! When I began blogging about naturism, I didn’t really know much about it. All I knew was that I was extremely interested in learning more about the lifestyle and didn’t feel comfortable talking to friends and family about it. This blog became my outlet. Tumblr became a space for me to vent, question, and share things as they came to mind. My blog became was my safety net. A way for me to jump into the lifestyle, without worrying about what people close to me would think. In the five years, I’ve been blogging I’ve gone from naturism being something I was secretly passionate about to it being one of the first things I’ll share when asked what’s new. More so than posting new things every week, these past five years have been more about learning and growing. Here are a few things I’ve learned since starting this blog…
I’ve learned to be real with myself. In the past, I would always act like things in my life were perfect. On the outside, I presented like I was always happy and loved myself. This was probably the biggest lie I could’ve ever made myself believe. Although I was generally a happy person, I hated the way my body looked and it was affecting how I carried myself. Upon starting this blog, I had suddenly lost a lot of weight due to stress and anxiety. People seemed to notice me a lot more than I had felt before and always seemed ready to let me know how slim I was looking. This may have seemed like a compliment to them, but hearing that would literally make me cringe in the inside. Around that time, I also had a false idea of how the black body was supposed to look. I had grown up watching porn 3-4 times a day and had subconsciously come to think that the bodies shown in those films was the norm. In addition to porn, there was this idea that ALL black men were hung. I had began to accept that something was wrong with me because my penis wasn’t anywhere near the size of those in the videos. And I didn’t really consider myself as hung. Because nudity was so taboo in my house and with the people I was close to, I was never exposed to real bodies looked like. So I had developed insecurities about my body based on assumptions. Since exploring naturism and starting this blog, I have seen hundreds of naked people! There is no true normal when it comes to the body. We all are different and that’s the only normal I acknowledge these days. Difference is okay! Being different is what makes us unique. Instead of dwelling on the fact that my penis isn’t as big as someone else’s, I’ve learned to accept that I do have and it’s done miracles for my confidence.
I’ve come to learn that the naked body isn’t sexual. It’s what we do while naked that makes it sexual. I was afraid that I would be attending a nudist event and because everyone was naked, I would see someone attractive and spend the entire time erect. This never happens! To be honest, the only time my body is erect is the first few seconds I remove my clothes. This happens because I’m usually excited and still a bit nervous. It has nothing to do with who’s around. After the first few minutes passes, my body begins to calm down and returns to its natural state. In my experience, it’s actually rather difficult to get excited on the fly when I’m at naturist events. I think this is because once you’re around other naked people for a while, your body starts to relax. You literally blend in. Nothing is out of the ordinary once everyone is naked.
The third thing I learned was that black people are naturist! WE DO INSIST AND ARE VERY ACTIVE IN THE LIFESTYLE! We just don’t necessarily exist in the spaces where people are looking for us. When I first started, I found a group of nudist in STL who planned monthly nude hangouts. I would attend these events, but noticed I was usually the only person who looked like me coming. I began to question why this was. What I’ve come to realize was that nudist spaces tend to mirror what’s going on in the clothed world lol. People naturally connect with people who identify with them. We have a problem with race in this country and those same issues have caused many black naturist to pass on attending certain events or join clubs. Naturist of color are creating spaces were they feel more comfortable and these groups have served as a support system for people who felt like they were alone. Last year, I joined the BLACK NATURISTS ASSOCIATION (BNA), which is a group that advocates nudity through Naturists environments and activities to help promote healthy body images and self-esteem for those in the black community. See information below to get connected!
Joining BNA has been one of the best things that I’ve ever done. It’s definitely helped me find a community where I feel at home and offers the support I spent years searching for.
Lastly, I’ve learned how freeing being nude with others can be! I, no longer, have a stigma attached to the nude body. Being in social setting nude just feels natural and I love connecting with others who share my interest. I’ve grown so much in a shirt amount of time. Stepping out of my comfort zone five years ago changed my life. I believe their are people out there struggling to accept themselves. I was one of those people. I chose to deal with my insecurities head on and saw naturism as the best option for me. I would invite anyone to try it. I created this blog to build a sense of community online. If you have any questions I’d just want to kno more about a specific part of my story, FEEL FREE TO ASK!
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